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From Weight Loss Success to Dating Struggles: A Year in Review

December 8th, 2024

Can you actually believe that Christmas is right around the corner?, I never expected that 2024 would go this fast. I am sitting here freezing with a mini heater on me because for some reason I am always cold. I have to say that 2024 was an emotional roller coaster. Between the men I dated, my weight loss journey, the hurricane damage to my place and just overall mentally exhausted from just every day life experience. Let’s recap from the year.

My Weight Loss Journey

Well I started back in February with being on Zepbound. (This is a GL1-P medication). I started at 219lbs. With in being December and almost being on it for a year I am down 67lbs nearing my 70lb weightloss mark. First off I have never seen the 150 range on a scale since High school. Depending on the material of the jeans I range now between a 10 and an 8 pant. I went from a XL to a Medium in shirts and some pants. I mean hold crap when I say I haven’t felt better. No more pain in my feet and knees. I get a lot more compliments, my confidence is slowly growing. To be honest I haven’t felt this great in a very long time.

Dating Yet Again

Ugh so I was dating a guy for about 4 months. Instead of coming to talk to me I get dumped via text because I asked for help moving a TV stand. I guess that’s what broke him. I mean there was other issues but instead of telling me that he was going to help and then not show up RED FLAG!! I have been just at the point now of giving up. I am a single mother and I have my daughter 24/7. Not going into further details about that at this time. I can’t just get up and do whatever I feel like when I want. That is what parenting is about. This is another reason why I only date men with children cause I feel like that they understand better that our children come first. So this will be another year ending as being single. As much as I keep telling myself that I am ok staying single, I really am not. I just want to have the family I dreamed about. Being able to give my child a happy home with two loving parents. (Not that she isn’t happy, just wish the living situation was better). I guess I can still dream about it. Who knows maybe 2025 has something better to offer than 2024 did.

Hurricane Damage

Yup Hurricane Milton flooded my apartment and that was back in October and it is now December and low and behold I still have no kitchen and no living room just a bedroom. I had so much mold in my place a lot of the walls had to be stripped. I recently had to get a new primary doctor so I had them run blood work and requested a chest X-ray to be safe that I am ok from being around that much mold. This is where I have been saying, “how much more shit can you throw at me before I have my mental breakdown.” It has been one thing after the next and I am just mentally exhausted from it all. Hopefully I’ll have a new and improved apartment by the end of the year towards the beginning cause right now the work being done is just moving too slow.

Mental Health

Overall, to be honest I can’t wait for 2024 to be over with I said this last year when 2023 ended cause well I was not in the right mindset. But I am hoping to 2025 to be better. I’ll be coming up on the big 40 in March so with that being said let’s hope for a good one. Maybe just maybe I will put myself out there and break out of my comfort zone and stop being this shy girl that I portray. There is two sides to me I just haven’t met anyone to show that other side to me just yet.
Overcoming Obstacles: Flood, Mold, and Resilience

October 25th, 2024

It’s October and I still can’t believe it. Only two months left of 2024. I am almost down 60lbs. I am currently at 57 pounds lost. I still watch everything I eat. But if a craving pops up but I will satisfy it with something healthier. I switched to mushroom coffee. (Everyday Dose) one of the best brands I have tried. I have tried others, but they never tasted right. This has chocolate notes and well it’s amazing. Plus, you get rewards every month. It really has been helping with boating and my digestion.

Anyway, this has been the year of many ups and downs including since Hurricane Milton hit. My apartment flooded and I mean it’s bad. My father just had to remove the walls due to it getting wet and he found mold so more work that needs to be done, besides the flooring. If it hasn’t been one thing it has been something else.

I will slowly get back up and going. I am pretty content with not being in a relationship as I was for a short-time. Eh lesson learned if you want something done do it yourself or ask someone you can really count on
Happy Fall: Embracing the Beauty and Anticipation of the End of the Year

September 25th, 2024

As we find ourselves with just 3 months left of 2024, it’s hard not to reflect on how quickly time has flown by. The leaves are changing colors, the air is getting crisper, and the holiday season is just around the corner. It’s a time of year that invokes feelings of coziness, reflection, and excitement for what’s to come. Except in Florida it won’t feel like fall until December. We’ll lets explore the beauty of fall and the anticipation of the end of the year.

Embracing the Season

Fall is a time of transition, where nature shows us the beauty of letting go and preparing for new beginnings. It’s a season that reminds us of the importance of change and growth, as we witness the stunning transformation of the world around us. From pumpkin patches to apple orchards, fall offers a plethora of activities to enjoy with loved ones. So why not embrace the season and make the most of these final months of the year?

Reflecting on the Year

As we approach the end of the year, it’s a perfect time to reflect on the journey we’ve been on so far. Have we accomplished the goals we set out to achieve? What have been our biggest successes and challenges? Taking the time to reflect allows us to gain insights into what we’ve learned and how we can continue to grow. So take a moment to look back on the year with gratitude for all that has happened, both good and bad.

Looking Ahead

While it’s important to reflect on the past, it’s equally important to look ahead with optimism and excitement. The end of the year brings with it a sense of anticipation for the possibilities that the new year will bring. What do we want to achieve in the coming year? What dreams and aspirations do we want to pursue? By setting goals and intentions for the future, we can focus our energy on creating the life we truly desire.

How can we make the most of the remaining months of 2024?

The key to making the most of the remaining months of 2024 is to be intentional about how we spend our time. This means setting clear goals, prioritizing self-care, and making time for the things that bring us joy. Whether it’s spending quality time with loved ones, engaging in activities that nourish our soul, or working towards a personal or professional goal, every moment counts. So let’s make the most of the time we have left and finish the year strong!

Conclusion

As we bid farewell to summer and embrace the beauty of fall, let’s remember to appreciate the magic of this season and the opportunity it brings for growth and transformation. With just 3 months left of 2024, let’s make the most of every moment and look ahead to the new year with excitement and optimism. Happy fall, everyone, and here’s to getting close to the end of the year!
That Feeling of Not Ever Being Good Enough

August 19th, 2024

Have you ever experienced that feeling of never being good enough? It’s a common struggle that many people face, often stemming from deep-rooted fears and insecurities. In this article, we will explore the various aspects of this feeling, including the fears behind it, the tendency to overcompensate in relationships, and the constant sense of doing something wrong.

The Root of the Problem: Fears

At the core of feeling like you’re never good enough are underlying fears that hold you back from fully embracing your worth. These fears be linked to past experiences, childhood trauma, or societal pressures. It’s essential to find and discuss these fears to start the process of healing and self-acceptance.
One common fear is the fear of failure. We often set high standards for ourselves and fear that we will never meet them. This fear can be paralyzing, leading to procrastination and self-sabotage. By reframing failure as a learning opportunity, we can gradually overcome this fear and build resilience.
Another fear that contributes to the feeling of not being good enough is the fear of rejection. We crave validation and acceptance from others, and the thought of being judged or criticized can be terrifying. It’s important to recognize that not everyone will approve of us, and that’s okay. True self-worth comes from within and is not dependent on external validation.

Overcompensating in Relationships

When we feel like we’re not good enough, we overcompensate in our relationships in a try to gain approval and love. This can manifest as always putting others’ needs before our own, being overly accommodating, or seeking validation through constant praise. While it’s natural to want to please others, it’s important to set boundaries and rank self-care.
Overcompensating in relationships can lead to burnout and resentment, as we neglect our own needs in favor of others’. By practicing self-love and self-compassion, we can break the cycle of overcompensation and cultivate healthy, balanced relationships based on mutual respect and understanding.

Constantly Feeling Like I Am Doing Something Wrong

The persistent feeling of never being good enough often manifests as a sense of constantly doing something wrong. Whether it’s at work, in relationships, or in personal endeavors, we be hyper-critical of our actions and choices, always second-guessing ourselves and seeking validation from others.
This self-doubt and perfectionism can be exhausting, leading to anxiety, stress, and feelings of inadequacy. It’s essential to challenge these negative thought patterns and practice self-compassion. Remember, it’s okay to make mistakes and learn from them. Nobody is perfect, and we are all a work in progress.

In conclusion, the feeling of not ever being good enough is a common struggle that many people face. By addressing the underlying fears, learning to set boundaries in relationships, and practicing self-compassion, we can start to overcome this harmful belief and embrace our true worth. Remember, you are enough, just as you are.
Finding Self-Worth, Building Confidence, and Weight Loss Journey

July 23rd, 2024
Are you struggling to find your self-worth while trying to lose weight and boost your confidence? Trust me, I’ve been there. A few years ago, I found myself overweight, unhappy, and lacking confidence. I knew I needed to make a change, not just for my physical health but also for my mental well-being. In this article, I’ll share my personal journey of losing 45 pounds in 6 months while learning to love myself and rebuilding my self-confidence.

My Weight Loss Struggle

When I first decided to embark on my weight loss journey, I was filled with self-doubt. I didn’t believe that I had the strength or willpower to make a significant change in my life. However, deep down, I knew that I deserved to feel happy and healthy. I started by setting small, achievable goals for myself and gradually increased my efforts as I started to see results.

Learning to Love Myself

One of the most important lessons I learned during my weight loss journey was the importance of self-love. I realized that my weight did not define my worth as a person. I started practicing self-care activities such as meditation, yoga, and journaling to help me connect with my inner self and appreciate the person I was becoming. Slowly but surely, I began to love myself for who I am, regardless of my physical appearance.

Building Confidence Through Action

As I continued to shed the pounds and embrace self-love, I noticed a significant shift in my confidence levels. I started to believe in myself and my abilities more than ever before. I began setting ambitious goals for myself both in my personal and professional life, and I wasn’t afraid to take risks or step outside of my comfort zone. Building confidence became a natural byproduct of my weight loss journey, and I felt empowered to conquer any challenge that came my way.

Practical Tips for Finding Self-Worth and Building Confidence

If you’re struggling with self-worth and confidence, here are some practical tips that helped me along my journey:
1. Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself and treat yourself with the same compassion you would offer to a friend in need.
2. Set Realistic Goals: Break down your objectives into smaller, achievable steps to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
3. Surround Yourself With Positivity: Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you, and let go of toxic relationships.
4. Celebrate Your Achievements: Take the time to celebrate your victories, no matter how small they may seem.
  By implementing these tips into your daily life, you can start to cultivate self-worth and confidence from within, leading to a happier and more fulfilled life.
Conclusion

Through my weight loss journey, I discovered that finding self-worth and building confidence go hand-in-hand with leading a healthier and happier life. It’s not just about the number on the scale but about learning to love and accept yourself for who you are. Remember, you are worthy of all the happiness and success in the world – all you have to do is believe in yourself and take the first step towards a brighter future.

So, what are you waiting for? Start your journey to finding self-worth, building confidence, and achieving your weight loss goals today!
Embracing July: Nurturing Health and Finding Love

July 2nd, 2024

As we step into the month of July, it’s an opportune time to reflect on our health and relationships. July brings with it a sense of warmth and vitality, making it the perfect time to prioritize our well-being and explore the possibilities of finding love. In this blog post, we will delve into the significance of health matters and the pursuit of love, offering insights and tips to help you make the most of this transformative month.

Nurturing Health: a. Embracing Physical Wellness: July offers longer days and pleasant weather, making it an ideal time to engage in outdoor activities. Take advantage of this by incorporating exercise into your daily routine, whether it’s going for a jog, practicing yoga in the park, or simply taking a leisurely walk. Prioritize nourishing your body with wholesome foods and staying hydrated to boost your overall well-being.

Mental and Emotional Well-being: July can be a busy month, but it’s crucial to carve out time for self-care and relaxation. Engage in activities that bring you joy and help you unwind, such as reading, meditating, or spending time in nature. Prioritize your mental and emotional health by practicing mindfulness and seeking support when needed. .

Building Healthy Habits: Use the beginning of July as an opportunity to reassess your lifestyle choices and establish healthy habits. This could include getting enough sleep, managing stress levels, and incorporating mindfulness practices into your daily routine. Small changes can have a significant impact on your overall health and well-being.

Finding Love: a. Self-Reflection: Before embarking on a journey to find love, it’s essential to reflect on your own desires, values, and goals. Take time to understand yourself better, identify what you are looking for in a partner, and work on personal growth. Self-awareness and self-love are the foundations for building a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

Expanding Your Social Circle: July offers numerous opportunities to meet new people and expand your social circle. Attend social events, join clubs or organizations that align with your interests, or try out new hobbies. Engaging in activities you enjoy will not only increase your chances of meeting like-minded individuals but also enhance your overall happiness.

Openness and Authenticity: When it comes to finding love, it’s important to be open and authentic in your interactions. Be yourself and embrace vulnerability, as it allows for genuine connections to form. Remember that finding love is a journey, and it may require patience and perseverance. Trust the process and remain open to new possibilities.

July presents us with a unique opportunity to prioritize our health and explore the realm of love. By nurturing our physical, mental, and emotional well-being, we lay the foundation for a fulfilling life. Simultaneously, by embracing self-reflection, expanding our social circle, and being open to new experiences, we increase our chances of finding love. Let this month be a time of growth, self-discovery, and connection as we embark on a journey towards a healthier and more love-filled life.
Entering Into a New Season

May 21st, 2024

Can you believe we are just about half way through 2024? I can’t believe how fast this year is flying by. It only feels like yesterday that it was January. Let’s recap so far of my year:

Started the year with a new goal in mind with my weightloss. Also had got a couple of self-help books to help with my self-worth and confidence. With the relationships I have been in, I really needed to work on myself and my mental health. I am a huge advocate about mental health but was really hard on myself to talk to someone myself because I was afraid of really finding out the truth about why I do, the things that I do.

Over the last 4 months I started a weightloss program and started the Zepbound injections, well I am down 35 pounds and 6 inches off my waist. I am extremely proud of myself. Most of my issues stem from my weight and always getting called fat then I really started to believe especially when it was coming from someone who I thought really loved me, my ex-husband. I did recently start getting counseling and I have been dealing with “Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), or body dysmorphia.” I have always been hard on myself especially when it came it my weight. It’s genetic as well. My grandmother on my dad’s side of the family was heavy so was one of my dad’s brother and one of his sisters. Which all three of them have passed. I also have PCOS, Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. It is a hormonal disorder that can cause fertility issues and weight gain. Which also makes me high risk for stroke, diabeties, and heart issues. But I am super happy so far with my weightloss journey to get healthy.

My mental health is finally starting to get somewhere and to finally narrow down some of my issues. Like resulting to food for comfort, well I can’t do that anymore. Of course I may have started a new problem….Shopping lol. A lot of things come from my past dating history and the relationship that I have with my own father. In the long haul building a new and improved me will be better for my overall health and hopefully create/build a healthy relationship with not only my daughter but with someone that will be happy to give me their heart and give my heart in return.

So here’s to the next half of the year, getting to my goal weight, and here is to being the best version of me that I could ever be.
Navigating Situationships: My Experience with Dating and Motherhood

May 14th, 2024

What exactly is a “Situationship?” It is when an individual wants everything of a relationship but without the commitment aspect of it. With my history of relationships, I am having a hard time committing myself to anyone. I mean, I have been married for 7 years, together with him for 11 years. Then got divorced from him. Moved to Florida had a kid in 2017. Started dating again in 2020/2021ish when I met a great guy only was with him for 7 months and split because he couldn’t handle a relationship that consisted of communication. (And he also cheated) Since then I have been single. I have been dating here and there but not committing myself to one person because of the last guy I was with. because my daughter got attached and with him leaving, she would constantly ask where he was at. I don’t want to be with someone that can just up and leave at any given moment. I have had my heart broken way too many times as the last one tells me, “that he’s different than most,” but then goes and proves to me that he is the same type of guy that I have previously dated. I am terrified of relationships now because of my daughter. It is just me, but you are entering my life with my daughter we come as a package deal. I can say I am afraid of being alone but at the same time I don’t have to worry about the hurt that may along with the relationship. I have really been enjoying my life right now without being tied down to anyone. I have been really contemplating a lot. But in the long run it is not just my happiness that matters it’s also my daughter’s.
Goodbye April, Hello May

May 6th, 2024

Wow 5 months into 2024 already it is going by fast. Well, let’s play catch up: so follow up on my weight loss I am now down 31 pounds which is freaking awesome. Still trying to maneuver through my love life. I am still insisting on not wanting a relationship and I am thinking I am getting to my root cause. It has been a long time since I could say that I love myself. I don’t mean that in a conceited way, but the saying goes “if you can’t love yourself, you can’t love another.” My mother reminded me of that when my daughter asked me the question, “Mom, do you love yourself?” I answered quickly and said “No” because I wanted her to know that I wasn’t self-absorbed, not really getting the question at hand. And that would be when my mother responded with, “if you can’t love yourself, you will never be able to love another.” Yeah, my brain was so far in left field. But with that it has prompted me to actually seek some actual help. After my last relationship being told one thing like, “I’m different and not like others.” And then goes and proves to me that he is like most and goes off and cheats without any communication and then blaming me like I’m the issue. So yeah, the relationships I’ve been in are probably where most of my problems lie. So, it is still 2024 and with it being 5 months in I have time to work on me, because I am a huge work in progress.
Live Your Story

April 3rd, 2024

“You are the only one holding a pen, everyone else’s opinions are erasable.”

Dream, See, Write Live your Story. So many roads for you to pave let them go your way, your are more than ready. Make it your own the power is all yours. Can’t get much clearer, one of a kind on earth beautiful treasure. You defy the impossible, The heart is unstoppable. Not just a fighter, not just a dreamer everyday keeps unfolding, make it your own there’s only one. Dream big and live your story the power is all yours. We’re on top, we are unstoppable today. We never quit, we never run , We can stand up for ourselves in every way. You got what the world needs and it’s time for you to see.

Tag: not perfect

Embracing the Season

Reflecting on the Year

Looking Ahead

How can we make the most of the remaining months of 2024?

Conclusion

The Root of the Problem: Fears

Overcompensating in Relationships

Constantly Feeling Like I Am Doing Something Wrong

My Weight Loss Struggle

Learning to Love Myself

Building Confidence Through Action

Practical Tips for Finding Self-Worth and Building Confidence

Conclusion